Marriage attitudes slowly change
Updated: 2013-08-13 23:31
By XU JUNQIAN (China Daily)
"The percentage came as quite a surprise to us," said Han Tingyu, the marketing director of Touchmedia. "It turned out young people today are not less traditional than the elder generations, as we had thought."
Only 10 percent of the respondents said they don't plan to get married or have a child, and less than one-fifth did not consider an apartment a necessity in a marriage.
"The only difference might be women today are more independent so that they can take up more financial responsibilities in the marriage," Han said.
However, 26-year-old Shanghai office worker Shi Lu thinks media and the public are "demonizing big cities' single marriage-aged women".
"Why make such a fuss about women sharing a mortgage in the marriage?" she asked. Shi and her fiance have just bought a 2-million-yuan apartment in Shanghai as their "future new home".
She said her commitment to pay half the mortgage drew a number of reproaches from her family and friends.
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Shanghai's well-known relationship counselor and psychologist Wu Di, on the other hand, believes the rise of urban women's financial independence in China will result in a decrease in marriages.
"The criteria for choosing the other half has barely changed, with men eyeing looks and women wealth. Yet as women are becoming increasingly more powerful financially, it will be more difficult for them to find someone more powerful than them," she said.
The survey supported Wu's theory, as it showed that, after personalities, looks and income are the next top priority for men and women, respectively, when seeking a marriage partner.
According to Baihe.com, one of the country's largest online matchmaking websites, which claims to have 60 million registered members, there are about 180 million single people in China of marrying age.
Wu estimates that more than one-fifth of the post-1980s generation, even when 40 years old, will be single or divorced and living alone while having "friends with benefits".
She found "nothing wrong with it", as long as "single ladies, if not single men as well", can ignore traditional pressure and social judgment.Related:
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